Marriage Compatibility (Part 2)In addition to Part 1 of Marriage Compatibility, here are some more vitally important things to consider before tying the knot: Compatibility Question #5: IndependenceAre you both independent of your parents? If you are still living at home, having Mommy doing your laundry and Daddy paying your bills, and plan to keep doing so after you get married (even if you just plan to live in their basement)... don't do it! You are NOT ready for marriage if you can't take care of yourself (and the same goes for the person you're thinking of marrying!).Marriage Compatibility Question #6: Future GoalsDo you have similar direction for your lives? Not that you can know right now what your next 50 years will all bring, but there are some things that you probably have a pretty good idea about.For Andrew and I, we both knew that we wanted to teach and travel in many different parts of the world (and we have!). If only one of us had had this goal and the other one had wanted to stay in Canada our entire life... well, you can imagine how frustrating that would have been! 
Compatibility Question #7: LOVECan you truly and honestly say that you LOVE this person? Be careful that you're not just settling for second-best, being pressured into marrying this person by others' expectations (family, friends, etc), or that you think time is running out for you to find someone who will marry you.You will be far happier staying single till the day you die, than marrying someone who's not really right for you! Compatibility Question #8: Chemistry and AttractionSometimes the relationship can "look good on paper," yet somehow that spark is just missing. My advice in this case would be "don't go there." If you don't feel attracted enough to the person now, don't force the relationship to keep happening. Chances are pretty good that the chemistry part of it won't just pop up suddenly 3 years down the road!
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