Marriage CompatibilityWorking through the questions of marriage compatibility as early as possible is one of the wisest things you could do. Of course you should be thinking about these things while you're engaged, but I would challenge you to begin even while you're just dating someone. If there's no way that you and your boyfriend or girlfriend are compatible for marriage, then why would you waste your time (and theirs) dating each other? Why not spend your time looking for someone and dating someone with whom you actually have real marriage compatibility? Below are some of the things to consider: 
Marriage Compatibility Question #1: ReligionDo you have the same faith or religious beliefs? I've heard many people answer this question with a "No," and then quickly add, "But he/she respects my beliefs and supports me in them." That's nice, but it will only get you so far.If you deeply believe in something, and if it's hugely important to you, then it should be something that can be shared with your husband/wife, so that you can grow together. I'm not saying it can't work if you don't share this, but it definitely makes things a lot harder and less pleasant than what they could be. And believe me, you don't want "hard" and "less pleasant," do you? Aim high when choosing who you'll marry... remember, it's for life! If you have answered this question with a "yes," then also ask yourself if you and your bf/gf are equally committed to your beliefs. For example, if you are both Christians, do you BOTH agree on going to church every week, and living your life according to God's instructions in the Bible? Practically speaking, are you both committed to Christian values like reading your Bible and praying regularly, seeking God's will for your life, not cheating on your taxes, not cheating on each other, not getting drunk, etc? If not, really re-think your partner's level of commitment! Marriage Compatibility Question #2:
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